Personal Development

Creating Personal Margin

Oct 20, 2017 By (Bio) One Comment

In his book Margin, author Richard Swenson, M.D., talks about the need to protect and, where needed, expand our margins in life. Just as a printed page would be difficult, if not nearly impossible, to read without margins, our lives can become overloaded and ineffective without appropriate space “between our load and limits.” While there are […]

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Trading the Truth for Lies: Kindness for Niceness

“It’s 2017 for goodness sake!” This and other similar refrains have come to dot our relational and conversational landscapes. They are attempts to “nicely” enlighten their audience, informing them that the world has advanced while they – clearly – have not. Most often, these refrains occur on social media, behind the veil of anonymity and […]

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Excellence Doesn’t Come Easy

Jul 20, 2017 By (Bio) 3 Comments

Last week my family attended a classical music concert together – not a typical Saturday for the Murrays. Several pieces were memorable; one is still impacting me. The conductor gently raised his hands and a young lady with blonde hair stepped down from the second row of risers. As she approached the microphone stand beside […]

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Trust and Communication

The connection between trust and communication is undeniable. It is difficult to build trust (with anyone, on any topic) when we don’t fully communicate. Likewise, we find it hard to truly connect and communicate with someone when trust has simply not been built yet or has been damaged in some way. It is often assumed […]

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Video Blog – Intentional Leadership: Helping Others Win

Roger North of North Group Consultants challenges leaders to develop deep relationships where their character is strengthened and natural influence is utilized to sharpen one another. Who are the people in your life that challenge you to be a better person?  What steps will you take to become that person to someone else?

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Letting Go and Moving On

Jun 05, 2017 By (Bio) One Comment

I am preparing to move to a new community in another town.  In order to provide a comfortable, clutter-free environment in our new, smaller home, we must give up many things – furniture, art, books, photos, dishes, other keepsakes and mementos – years of accumulation. Most opportunities in life require letting go.  Pursuing opportunities and […]

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Avoiding Behavioral Drift

There is a great quote from John Maxwell that states, “Experience is not the best teacher… EVALUATED experience is the best teacher.”  Or, as I heard a speaker say one time, “Experience makes us older, evaluated experience makes us wiser.” As people, we are often changing or modifying our thinking, behaviors and habits – and […]

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Relational Roadblocks

Mar 05, 2017 By (Bio) No Comments

We all know the fundamentals of strong, healthy relationships, don’t we? Asking good questions, listening well, investing in transparency and trust, there is really no mystery. So why do we get so easily sidetracked by our own personal history, baggage and perspectives? I was recently part of a group discussion that revealed a clear lack […]

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The Power of Pause

  Many people all over the world take the dawn of a new year to start fresh. Goals are written, resolutions are declared, and hope is born. Gyms are full.  Healthy food flies off the shelves.  Books are purchased and stacked by our beds.  Enthusiastically, we dash into January, pumped up by the promise of […]

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Building Character

One of the most important gifts we can give to our family, friends, co-workers and ourselves is to be a person of character. David Brooks, in his book The Road to Character, examines the lives of a diverse set of people who have exemplified a life of character.  Brooks identifies a pattern that recurs in each of […]

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